Friday, April 13, 2018

Connecting Dots

Connect the Dots with Dorothy

Becoming balanced with our emotions.  Getting comfortable under our own skin.  Experiencing peace and joy within.  Creates an awareness that all is well with our body, mind and soul.

It's a time where depression turns into inspiration.  It's a time of letting go of poor me thoughts.  It's a time of awakening true me.  Letting go of what doesn't serve us at being our best.

As I learn and share my cancer journey I see a new beginning with connecting the dots with Dorothy.

I encourage you to make a commitment to work on true you.  

Creating a life full of courage, confidence and a commitment to get your emotions balanced.

You might have just received a cancer diagnosis or know someone who has.  

Please ask for help . . .  connect the dots with Dorothy at My Big G.  I know you'll find something to encourage you there.

As I let go of creating blog entries, you'll find you can also connect the dots with Dorothy on Facebook . . . . . . 

. . . . . . Dorothy Sessa/Mrs Encouragement . . . . . .  I've created a page called Courage . . . . . . sharing from my healing room.  Which I call 'Shirley Goodness & Mary'.

Until we meet again on other sources of social media, be filled with hope and keep on keeping on.  Never, ever give up.  Look up to Big G for He cares for you and knows you by name.  He is the true source of emotional healing.  He'll give you peace.

Much Love, 

Mrs. Encouragement

Friday, March 30, 2018

I Am the Door

Consider looking back on your life.

Which door lead you to Jesus Christ and finding rest in Him through all circumstances?

Which door opened up your soul, to pray, cry and let go?

I look forward to hearing your stories.

Much Love, 
Mrs. Encouragement

Quote from Jesus:  John 10:9 (New King James Version)  I am the door.  If anyone enters by Me, he will be saved, and will go in and out and find pasture. 

Friday, March 16, 2018

Me Jane. Who are you?

Remember Jane and Tarzan movies? 

Jane here.  I'm the director of my life.  I'm sitting at my computer typing.  Tarzan?  Well he’s still in bed sleeping.  And I’ve been thinking.  That usually gets me in trouble, because it’s going to cost Tarzan some money.

Life in the jungle was so simple.  Money was not a medium for exchange there.  Flying from tree to tree was our only mode of transportation.  Reaching out to grab a fruit to eat was simple.  The sun kept us warm as we went for our daily swim in the lake.  Our friends lived near by in the tree house next door.  

We’d sing and dance to our hearts content. 

Since Tarzan and I moved into the city, we’ve noticed there is so much traffic and noise.  Especially from the fire trucks.  Seems there’s a lot of accidents on the road because people are driving too fast in their new modes of transportation.  And lots of tree house fires these days. 

It’s so cold outside.  The rivers and lakes are frozen.  The fruit on the trees only grow in the summer months.  We have to get our food from places far away.  Our friends have moved into a bigger and better tree house far away.  We don’t see them much anymore.

In the forest there wasn’t much to distract me except Tarzan.  I liked it when Tarzan distracted me with his mating call.  When he came home from work we’d enjoy going for a walk holding hands in the jungle. 

But in the city.  The drug with the plug is his distraction.  The TV.  The computer is my distraction.  There are so many channels to choose from and so many places to surf on the internet. 

I used to be able to distract and entertain him.  I sing and dance on my own now.  And we live in a world each of our own. 

The way to Tarzan's heart was through his stomach.  I got tired of chopping up all those coconuts and sugar cane.  Now I just put them through the blender with instant coconut milk and call it a meal.

Life is so easy in the city.  I have a machine to cook my food, a machine to do my laundry, a machine to clean my tree house. 

So, what’s a woman to do?  Sit around and think about how life used to be?  Oh, those were the days my friend we thought they’d never end.  We’d sing and dance forever and a day.  We lived the life we choose.  We’d fight and never loose.  Those were the days, oh yes those were the days. 

The years we’ve spent in the city fighting over money and he said, she said stuff.  We’ve discovered poor health is overtaking us.  I’ve had cancer and so many of our friends are dealing with cancer.  Even their pets have cancer.  

What can Tarzan and I do?  Turn off the TV.  Turn off the computer.  Leave on a jet plane.  Go to a new destination.  Walk and talk, holding hands.  Look into each others eyes.  Smile.  Create the life we dream of.

I’ve got to say goodbye now.  Tarzan is up.  Pray for me to boldly explain my dream trip so he sees value in going where Jane hasn’t gone before!  If he doesn’t see value.  I usually say take it out of my funeral expense account.  Soon there will be no money left for my funeral.  Oh well.

Here's a highlight Steve Jobs Speaks about Death

May you see yourself as the director of your life and create the life you dream of.

Much love,
Mrs. Encouragement

Friday, March 2, 2018

Let the Light Shine into your Darkness

Thanks to Evangelist Billy Graham, one night long ago . . .  

. . . . In 1978, I invited the light of Jesus into my darkness.

The bible says:  Our eyes are the lamp of our body.  When our eyes are healthy, our whole body is also full of light.  When they are unhealthy they are full of darkness.  See to it then that the light within us, is not darkness.

Today the Evangelist was buried at 99 years of age.  I recall when he came to my hometown, Calgary.  For me it was heaven.  I was SO excited.  A few years later his son Franklin came to Calgary.  I sang in the choir.  I was on an emotional high.

As a young woman I blamed my parents.  As a wife I blamed my husband.  I was surrounded by the darkness of fears.  My home was run by an undemocratic authority.  My emotions lost sight of the light.  Years later, against all odds I showed up, stood up and spoke up.  Surrounded by the miracle of God's light again, I discovered there is no one to blame but myself, for my perception.  I was left to choose who or what I would serve.  Would I fall prostrate to fear?  Overwhelmed by the manipulation or lack of concern from another person?  At times, yes, I would.  On other occasions I would choose to serve Christ and keep my focus on Him, not my circumstances.  Not my breast cancer.

It takes a lot of self discipline to stand against the darkness that our thoughts create.  We have been called to focus on Christ not the faults of ourself or others.  This takes humility and surrender. 

Forgive me dear Lord Jesus – for I have fallen short of your glory.  Help me to stand tall, filled with your love, ready to share your light and truth.

Much love, 
Mrs. Encouragement

p.s. My Nana suggested I watch the TV Evangelist.  Thank You Nana!

Today I sing and dance to Overcomer by Mandisa

Monday, February 19, 2018

Cut and Paste Family

The perfect choice

I let go of controlling the morning and expecting everything to be perfect.  I told God He was in charge of the small gathering of ladies in my home.  

Viewing the family portrait, the ladies all commented on how lovely it was.  And the setting looked so real.  I had invited them over for coffee and conversation.  Discussing our difficult situations and moving forward.  It was a lovely time of fellowship.

How timely that we engaged in conversation about the cut and paste family on the wall as we discussed our difficulties.

The back drop was a real park setting, it wasn't in a studio.  I had worked hard on organizing the perfect day that would work for all of us. 

My daughter and I just smiled at each other.  When the ladies were quiet I told them that was one hell of a day.  They wondered why.  

My husband and I had a major argument a few days before.  Being distraught, my daughter could hardly show up.  We both were an emotional mess.  I encouraged her to let go as I did and show up.
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ 
new thought:  Two years prior to that photo shoot.  I tried hard to get the whole fam damily to agree on a family portrait to commemorate the Olympics.  Didn't happen.  I had booked a photographer and a date.  I called to tell her I would be the only one showing up that day.  We had a blast.  The photographer and I walking around my home town with my bag of props.  I did it just for me because I could.  It cost me only $150.00  Money well spent.  I look at those photos when I feel discouraged or disappointed.  It inspires me to let go of toxic negative emotions.  

Had my family agreed to my original idea we'd have a happy family on the wall.  Not a cut and paste family!
~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ 

When it was time for my daughter's to go to the studio to view the results of our family portrait.  We each commented that we liked our face better in this scene not that scene or I don't like my grandsons bright orange runner laces.  Then she would cut and paste or change the color.  It was amazing.  We ended looking like the perfect family in the perfect setting for only $1000.00!

Without knowing the details you too would think it was a lovely family portrait.

I then said, "I look like a statue".  My daughter responded with, "Yes Mom you definitely are a statue in that photo. And you can see the rigidness in me too."

How about this cut & paste budgie/tiger?
Since that portrait there are 4 new grandchildren.

Time for another portrait!  I don't think we'll do the cut and paste thing.  I'd like to do a more relaxed walk around town taking candid photos.  

Next time you see a family portrait in a store front window.  Think about what it took the mother to get her family to show up above and beyond the call of duty, cooperating in a color scheme of clothing to bout, with a bunch of rebels.

How about you.  Are you able to show up under difficulty?  Are you discouraged or disappointed?  If it's going to happen it's going to take you to make it happen.  Do it for you, just because you can.  God will give you the strength.  Trust and Believe in you.
The bible says:  God does not give us a spirit of fear but a spirit of power, of love and self discipline.

Much Love, 
Mrs. Encouragement   

Saturday, February 10, 2018

Crying in the presence of My Big G

I'm crying in the presence of My Big G, God, like a baby.

Why, you might ask?  For teaching me to not be overcome by being offended.  When I take offence, I'm putting the focus on me, not God.  My emotions can not be trusted

It is so easy to take offence to something someone said or something someone did or didn't do.  Life is full of reasons to be offended. 

Being offended my emotions really take me down.  I'm overcome with life and how a loved one treats me.  My Big G knows all about it.  When I'm offended I stop writing?  My inspiration gets buried deep within me and depression rises up.

Discovering how to let go of anger, resentment, jealousy and bitterness has encouraged me.  Because the consequence of being offended brings division, separation and broken relationships.  That's not fun.

Putting my focus on God, not me and living life to the fullest after a cancer diagnosis I find my hearts desire is to prepare for heaven.  I must stop blaming others for who I am, turn from my ways and follow God's ways.  When I go to heaven I'll be facing God alone.  No one will be beside me to blame for my life choices.

May the desire of your heart teach you about God's unconditional love, forgiveness and freedom to just be you.

Today I cry and dance to Shackles by Mary Mary.   

Much Love,
Mrs. Encouragement

Tuesday, January 23, 2018

Do Life Big

To do life big we must be present in the moment. 

It is important to deal with our fears because our fears keep us living or reacting to the past.  Our fears are based on our past experiences.  Not facts.  So whatever happened is over and done with.  Change it's color to black and white.  Stop feeding it with drama. 

Imagine holding a tension rope.  Pull it tight, tight, tighter, then let it go.  Gone.  The past memory is gone.  Now let's deal with now. 

Right here, right now, I want to dance.  That's what works for me to inspire my day.  I mentioned this on my Jan 18th, 2018 blog.

Focusing on what works for me is dancing.  For 2018 I've chosen to dance to one song to start off each day on the right foot. 

Throughout 2018 I will mention the song that I chose on each blog.

May you be blessed and encouraged.  May you sing and dance to your hearts content before the time of your life is over.

Today's song is:  Do Life Big by Jamie Grace.  You can watch it on youtube.

Enjoy your day to the fullest. 

Much Love,
Mrs. Encouragement

p.s. Worthless is who I was.  Priceless is who I am now!  I feel safe to be me.

Monday, January 1, 2018

Never Early Never Late

Death is Never Early Never Late.  Death is part of Life.

We just don't know when death will come knocking at our door.  Or how it will arrive.  Suddenly or slowly.

Watching a loved one go through an illness is painful.  Loosing a loved one suddenly, just as painful.  Being a care giver to a loved one, very exhausting.  It is important to overcome our fear of death or uncertainty.  To let go of our fight or flight mode so we can focus on living.

As we focus on living, it's important to take care of our needs.  When I had my breast cancer diagnosis that was the first time I learned about the fight or flight mode.  I controlled my thoughts with Dr. Patrick Porter's Brain Tap Technologies.  Now I'm encouraging my husband to relax and meditate as he deals with a concussion and both wrists broken.  I see the fear, uncertainty and panic as he faces a new future.

Having lost a friend on Dec 19th to cancer and a friend who lost a loved one in Nov. and on Jan 1.  I wanted to learn more about overcoming the fear of death.  I came across this book by Kelvin Chin.  Available to purchase on Amazon.  He has a new approach:  non-religious non-cultural that covers all beliefs.  His organization is:  and

As we focus on letting go of our fears we are able to focus on what's working in our life to gain inspiration.

January 2018 - Let's start off the new year with writing down what's working?  Suggested my writing teacher.

Get a full sheet of paper and write on the top 'What is working'.  As you write down what's working in your life.  Those are the things to focus on and check in with through out the year.  I enjoy writing, designing, organizing, learning, playing with my grandchildren, and speaking.  Those things are working for me.

I love to dance.  Each day I'm going to dance to one song to inspire myself.  I'm going to connect with two girlfriends each month.  I think doing things that inspire me will help me to deal more effectively with those who frustrate and bring out the worst in me.

When we take care of our needs it gives us more energy to take care of others.  At the same time creating healthy boundaries in relationships.

May your life be full of inspiration.  Living life to the fullest.  Dying without regrets.
With each blog entry this year I will share the song I'm dancing to.  May you be inspired as it SO inspires my day.

Much Love,

Mrs. Encouragement.